Paving Roads to 'Yes'

Bess de Boer

What happens to us in the midst of conflict?

Situations of conflict activate a kind of REVERSAL of focus and behavior in us. We place our focus squarely on the other, rather than on...

Bess de Boer

Keep Your Gaze on the Wounded Place

This quote from Rumi speaks profoundly to the cornerstone of my work in resolving difficult conflict: finding the wound in people and...

Bess de Boer

Returning To Our True Selves Through Conflict

Most of us often think of the conflict situations that we face in our life, as unforeseen negative events that present themselves,...

Bess de Boer

Lifting The Veil On Difficult Conversations

What makes conversations difficult is all the stuff we’re thinking and feeling, but NOT saying to the other - the hidden CONVERSATIONS WE...